On October 30, 2018, I announced a daily devotional for hurting partners — specifically women who have been harmed by sexual betrayal. My goal is to write one new entry for the devotional every day for the next year. Eventually, I will have a complete book that can be published and reach a broader audience.
If you are interested in reading the entries from the beginning, you can check out the first one called “Discovery Day” and read them in reverse order. That initial entry is designed to engage a woman on the first day she finds out her spouse has been unfaithful.
Day by day, I will be sharing what I have learned and the wisdom and insight I have gained along this path during the past two years. There is no need to read the entries in order, so you are welcome to jump in anywhere at anytime.
Healing from sexual betrayal has been quite a difficult process and also a life-changing journey I never would have expected, nor wanted, to take. I imagine you may feel the same way.
My husband’s decision to act out sexually has damaged me and our family, and what’s also true is God has been incredibly faithful and gracious. My husband’s arrest for possession of child pornography in October 2016 and a felony conviction on one count, as well as subsequent sentencing to four years of probation, has left an indelible mark. As a sex offender family, we are saddled with many restrictions, police oversight and a painful social stigma.
While our situation may not be the norm, everyone whose life has been impacted by infidelity bears the scars of their partner’s poor choices and foolish actions.
Thankfully, through the pain, God has used our circumstances powerfully to envision me for a better, richer, fuller quality of life than the one I initially thought I would have on the day of my husband’s arrest.
The Lord Jesus has activated a passion and gifts in me I previously did not recognize, nor fully embrace. My husband and I have a chance at a new and better marriage and are enjoying a family life with our three kids that we value and appreciate now more than ever. We all have been extended a great deal of grace and a gracious second chance.
Now is the time to reach out and encourage other hurting women whose lives, safety and trust have been crashed by their partner’s involvement in adultery, lust, pornography and masturbation. I look forward to sharing this journey with you as we seek healing from the unique pain of sexual betrayal.
May God bless you and show you the path to freedom. Always remember, you are loved and you are not alone.